Resurrecting Mighty Aphrodite (part 2): Relationships

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So you may not want to hear this but stick with me… in order to have a holistic relationship we need to embrace our feminine which includes being more respectful of our man’s thoughts, encouraging his potential and maybe putting a little more effort into our look for him — wait,  I know how all that sounds. I went to an all girl school where feminism was pretty much a given, went on to college to co-found a Latina support group and ran a clothing line who’s central message was women empowerment. I know how to do that woman power thang pretty well. But with an over emphasis on this side of my identity, there's been an imbalance. I’ve attempted to suppress my femininity in the name of feminism. 

Some of the suggestions Marianne Williamson proposed in the Aphrodite Training can seem a bit out-dated to us, but if you can keep your head and heart open you’ll see, like I have, that embracing this femininity in us is how we’re going to start feeling more balanced in our relationships. And since relationships provide the space where your sexuality and spirituality meet, we can agree that we’re at least willing to hear Aphrodite out. 

How does this quote resonate with you?

“A man’s greatest psychic craving is that his thoughts be respected and a women’s greatest psychic craving is that her feelings be cherished.” - Pat Allen

I can definitely relate to the importance of having my feelings cherished so I was willing to at least consider that it’s important for men’s thoughts to be respected. If we’re really trying to live our spirituality and we’ve accepted that we can only get back the energy that we put into something, then in order to cultivate a relationship where our feelings are respected by our partners, we need to also respect their thoughts. This does not mean that we mindlessly agree with everything he says and never state our thoughts, but it does mean that we handle their thoughts with the same sensitivity and awareness we’d like with our feelings handled by them. We know how painful it feels when our feelings are disrespected. If we can keep this in mind so that we don’t inflict the same pain in regard to his thoughts, we will create a relationship that feels safe for everyone. 

The same principle applies when encouraging the highest potential in our men. Marianne Williamson reminds us that men and women, in heterosexual and homosexual relationships, possess both masculine and feminine energies. In a balanced relationship, one person is responsible for bringing more of the masculine or the feminine. Masculine energy is about doing and feminine energy is about being. Because the nature of spirituality is concerned with our being, our feminine energy serves the purpose in the relationship of helping men reach their higher selves. In doing so, we are embodying our higher selves as well. Marianne also points out that the point of relationships is to bring us happiness. So if we literally pray for our man’s happiness everyday, we’ll also be receiving that same energy in return. You don’t have to be enlightened yet to accept that happy people make other people happy.

You may still be a little skeptical on the last point I made… putting more effort into our looks, so let me elaborate. I think this might only speak to some but it speaks to me so thought I’d share. Marianne Williamson talked about how she used to look down on her mom because she always made an effort to look her best for her dad when he got home from work. In retrospect, knowing what she knows about Aphrodite, she now realizes that this did actually help her parents have a healthier relationship. The idea of looking your best for the one person that you’re sharing your life with is not that crazy of an idea. Again, it doesn’t mean that you can’t relax and feel beautiful regardless of what you’re wearing but we can’t deny that we feel better when we’ve made an effort, however that looks to you. And when we feel better, we show up better in our relationships.

I’m a fan of lists and practical tips but when talking about Aphrodite’s energy, there’s no way she can be summed up neatly in bullet points. These three points are only a few ways that we can start awakening the Aphrodite in us so that we can heal our relationships. Some of you might be wondering why it seems as if women have to carry the burden of healing the relationship when a relationship consists of two people. Although I’m not too clear on why women are to initiate this shift, I do get the sense that whoever is resonating with this information from the Aphrodite Training is wanting to heal some aspect of themselves and their relationship. Since I accept and believe that we must be the change we wish to see, we have to get on with it.

And do you know what happens when we embody our femininity more? It frees up our men (or partners) to occupy their masculinity more. The balancing and healing of the relationship helps create an environment where our men will cherish our feelings and match our effort, both in style and in the relationship. It’s also a place where our highest potential can emerge. And if occupying more of your Aphrodite energy doesn’t bring that out in your partner, you'll be guided by God to handle that as needed, whether it means staying or going.

This training has allowed me to see that asking deeper questions, especially when it comes to healing relationships, leads to deeper answers. Marianne Williamson says that instead of asking how we can heal our relationships, that we instead embody Aphrodite as best we can and be humble enough to ask for God’s help in doing so. Since our egos are running most of the show, we tend only to ask ego-based questions and therefore come to ego-based conclusions, especially when it comes to love. And since Aphrodite is more about being than doing, we need to be asking ourselves “who do I need to be in this relationship?” The compartmentalization of your life then is no longer needed because you recognize that spirituality is supposed to serve as a foundation for your entire life, including your relationship and sexuality. 


Music Mantra:

I can make you put your phone down

So you can show me attention
And I'll cut mine off too
Boy that'll help when I listen
I can make you put your phone down

Resurrecting Mighty Aphrodite

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Sexuality meets spirituality. If that idea resonates with you, keep reading…

As I’ve mentioned before on my welcome page, I’ve lived a fragmented life where I’ve compartmentalized aspects of myself. Like one of those people who’s food can’t touch, certain qualities weren’t allowed to overlap with others. Many of us do this without recognizing it and it’s fucking exhausting. Tearing down walls is a process. During this process what’s come up is a recognition that I need to heal the separation I’ve created between my sexuality and spirituality and I know I’m not alone. 

We need to begin to see sexuality through the lens of spirituality so that we can give birth to a more holistic life and relax into our higher power. 

Marianne Williamson recently hosted a weekend seminar called “Aphrodite Training: On the Convergence of Woman, Goddess and Lover” and before knowing too much about it, I had a strong feeling that I somehow needed to know more. As I’ve since learned, this inclination is a clear sign that Aphrodite’s energy is calling me. It wouldn’t have caught my attention if I didn’t recognize she’s a part of me. And I definitely wouldn’t have Clarissa Pinkola EstésWomen Who Run with the Wolves sitting on my book shelf (admittedly half-read, but still…).  That feeling was so strong that I ended up winning access to the Livestream training through a Twitter contest (#lawofattraction) and to pay it forward, I want to share what I've learned so far with you...

In the book Goddesses in Everywoman Jean Shinoda Bolen names the different goddesses that women tend to embody. Each goddess has different qualities about her. Aphrodite is the goddess that represents beauty, love, sexuality, creativity and procreativity. She gives birth to children, ideas and projects. She brings out the best in men by being a source of joy and confidence. And when Aphrodite is “in her temple”, she expresses her sexuality freely with a man that truly honors her divinity. 

Basically, she’s the grown-ass woman in us. 

Embracing Aphrodite can be scary to some of us. Women’s powers have been suppressed by society for generations. Most of us have been socialized to see ourselves and other women through the Madonna/Whore dichotomy that interprets different aspects of ourselves as good (spirituality) and others as bad (sexuality), when in reality everything is divine when we’re operating from within the temple. Also, Marianne tells us, feminism has played a role in our suppression of Aphrodite because we’ve subtly defined femininity as weak. I consider myself a feminist but can recognize that we’ve pursued equality mainly through embodying masculine energies. We’ve put the pants on in the relationships, become bread winners and while all that is great, it has come at the expense of our Aphrodite qualities. We’re out in the world being badass during the day and come home and forget to soften up so that those gentler energies can be expressed at night. 

As a result of society’s dominating perspectives, most of us have either disowned or distorted Aphrodite’s energies, causing us to feel fragmented, unbalanced and with a fair share of heartache.

The experience manifests differently for those in a relationship and those not currently in relationship, but learning to resurrect this goddess in our lives will lead to more holistic romantic relationships in the present and future. If you’ve read this far, I’m gonna take a guess and say there is something about this topic that is needing your attention. The first step we take in the resurrection is to reflect on how you've suppressed, disowned or taken Aphrodite out of the temple... or all of the above. Take this week to journal or just think about it. As I continue the training, I will share what Marianne Williamson suggests as the next step for resurrecting Mighty Aphrodite and how merging your sexuality with your spirituality can lead to better relationships. Stay tuned for next week's post.

Side Note - This is just the tip of the iceberg on this topic and filtered through my understanding. If you want to get a more in depth understanding, I highly recommend taking the training straight from the wisdom of Marianne Williamson.

 


Music Mantra:

I just wanna be a woman. 



Train Your Brain

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DISCLAIMER: I ran into some major resistance today. After rewriting and editing what I had worked on this week, my computer battery died before I could save the changes. Then, when doing the audio recording, I kept getting interrupted with the construction that's going on at my neighbor's house. And lastly, my browser keeps quitting while as I'm posting this. (I am literally hitting save after ever sentence.) I almost told myself that I would just finish later this weekend but I remembered that my intention is to be authentic rather than perfect with this blog. So I am posting this as is, going for a run and will get back to the art piece at a later date. Progress! xo, Rosie Pi

I had forgotten my headphones at home and I was at the Rose Bowl, about to run 3 miles. I almost drove back for them but decided to challenge myself. For me, running without music was a big deal. What was going to drown out the voices in my head saying “this is too hard… I’m ready to stop… how much longer… I can’t breathe”? I had always told myself that the only way I can run is if I have my headphones and a ratchet playlist to distract me. But that day I turned on my Nike Running app and clicked “no music”. That experience didn’t convert me into a no music runner, but it did help me realize something. 

With no distractions, I had to make a decision to not listen to the thought that said I needed to stop because I was too tired. I kept going and ran faster than I’ve ever run 3 miles. 

I was officially curious about my thoughts while running and its affects on my performance. On my next run I decided to bust out a recording I had from Erin Stutland. It was a workout meditation that had music and positive affirmations like “I am strong right now” over workout music. Forcing my brain to focus on positive thoughts about what I was doing helped me beat my time yet again. On my next run I doubled up and also listened to a hypnosis recording I have from Grace Smith on body confidence. And sure enough, I beat my time again! In one week I had shaved off almost a minute from my run and that’s a big deal for me. 

This was enough proof to me, whether we’re aware of them or not, the thoughts we have influence what we do, how we do it and even decide our limits for us. 

Affirmations are a way influence this connection in a way that serves us instead of hurts us. They are intentional positive thoughts that you train your brain to think. This goes beyond running and working out. They rewrite our subconscious so that we can accomplish what we want and be who we truly are. This leaves less room for the negative thoughts (aka the lies that we tell ourselves). When you have positive thoughts, it tends to lead to positive outcomes. Luckily for us, we can start affirming things in our life at this very moment and here are some tips on helping you do just that:

1. Set your affirmation. 

    Affirmations are positive statements set in the present. “I am X.” vs “I want to be X”. It can also be a question. “How can I be more X?” This trick helps because it assumes you’re already whatever you want to be and you’re just finding more ways to be just that. 

2.   Act as if.

    Belief and action go hand in hand. Think about your affirmation and ask what actions you would take if this were true. Take those actions. The acting as if strengthens your beliefs and eventually even the actions become easier.

3.  Do it until you believe it. 

    Just like working out, you won’t see results unless you keep doing the exercises. As we affirm the changes we want to make and take action toward those changes, our beliefs start changing and then we hit that sweet spot where things seem effortless.  

In addition to using affirmations while running, I am also beginning to implement them in other aspects of my life. I truly believe that it’s what’s helping me put myself out there week after week with this passion project of mine and I hope that this story will encourage you to affirm positivity in your life as well. 


I don't have a music mantra for you this week but, since we're on the topic, I wanted to share one of my favorite running songs with you. I've realized I can run to this while I do my affirmations. Best of both worlds. :)


Guilt Trippin'

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“I feel bad.” 

Unfortunately these 3 words come out of my mouth more often than I’d like to admit. I be guilt trippin’. If you're like me, most of the time we feel bad about things that are ridiculous, and other times we feel guilty for falling short of our being best selves.

But regardless, forgiveness is the space where that unwanted situation can transform into a blessing. And who doesn’t want that? 

At it’s best function guilt can help us learn from our mistakes so that we don’t repeat the past.  But when we use it as more than a learning tool, we corrupt that function by missing the lesson and getting stuck in the past, reinforcing the transgression.

Peace, self-acceptance, and love are all waiting for us NOW while we’re busy should-ing all over ourselves about the past.

What worry is to the future, guilt is to the past. Essentially we're allowing our present experience to be dominated by something that doesn’t even exist anymore… we are keeping it alive in our heads. Forgiveness essentially means being present and in this space, everything drops and all we're left with is the opportunity to choose better in this situation.

Guilt gives us the false promise of feeling better about the situation. 

We think if I feel bad enough than the feeling will go away, right? Nope. The only way out of this one is self forgiveness. But how exactly do you self forgive and quit the “I feel bad” habit?  Unfortunately there’s no forgiveness patch that we can just slap on so here are 3 tools: 

  • Gain perspective

Start with recognizing that our guilt serves no one, not even the very people we feel bad about doing or not doing whatever we did or didn’t do to them.

  • Forgive others

Most of us are harder on ourselves than we are on other people. If you’re able to forgive others, you’ll find it easier to forgive yourself. Do it out of self interest if needed, but start forgiving.

  • Realize the lesson

Ask yourself, if there was a lesson here, what would it be? When you learn the lesson, everything that you experienced will make sense and you’ll be able to choose better. 

Remember that self forgiveness is not a one time deal. Kyle Gray reminds us that forgiveness is a state of being that you keep coming back to when you steer off the path.


Music Mantra:

Steer the course, make a way. And come ashore on a greater day. 



Why I Jumped On The “Yoga (Almost) Every Damn Day” Bandwagon

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Trying something new this week. If you are on the go and don't want to read, press play and I will read to you. These recordings will get better with practice, I promise. 😁

If everyone is doing something, you’ll find a hard time convincing me to do it. But eventually my judgements wear off and I realize why trends are trending. I’ve noticed this pattern in me a lot lately. I resist liking things everyone likes and then end up biting my tongue. This isn’t easy for my Aquarius side to admit but it’s true. I rolled my eyes at Drake and now I can’t get Hotline Bling off my playlist. I resisted getting into Game of Thrones and now find myself binge watching in order to catch up so no one spoils it for me. And now, after dabbling in yoga for years but never getting into it because I didn’t want to fit into the stereotype of the “spiritual hippy yogi girl”, here I am, admitting to you that I have jumped on another bandwagon. Moral of the story, judging always comes back to you. But, that’s a good thing…  

It all began earlier this year when I purchased a groupon for YogaWorks. I admit I was more motivated to get my money’s worth than to workout everyday but it lead me to understand what the #yogaeverydamnday people on Instagram have probably always known… yoga is the most efficient way to connect the mind, body and soul. 

Yoga quiets/distracts my mind. 

I think once my practice deepens, I’ll be able to zen out more quickly and frequently but right now, the way yoga has been able to quiet the chatter of my mind has been through distracting my mind. My overthinking brain is forced to focus on the present moment and how I’m going to get my body to do that pose.  Once my mind slows down enough, it produces relaxation. This is a daily lesson on how powerful our minds are and how it can affect the way our body feels. 

Yoga efficiently moves my body. 

There are countless physical benefits when you do yoga, like massaging your organs and body awareness, but the most motivating factor for me is efficiency. Not having time to workout and stretch is a worn out excuse of mine and yoga has been the perfect antidote for that. Usually when I run, I skip out or rush through the stretching part. I’ve always taken my flexibility for granted and as I get older, I’m realizing I have to actually stretch. With yoga, I’m able to to workout and stretch all at the same damn time. And since I’m focusing on my breath, I am also getting in my daily meditation. Score.

Yoga reminds me to breathe. 

Our breath is the quickest way to connect to our soul and become present. There’s a reason why when we meditate, we focus on the breath. Although breathing seems like the easiest thing in the world to do since we don’t have to actually think about it do it, yoga helps me to focus on it. In yoga, inhales and exhales are synced with movement. For example, you inhale in plank and exhale to downward dog. Connecting movement to breath is one way to get your mediation in and the perfect alternative to meditating while sitting still.  

I now subscribe to YogaWork’s online classes so there is even more reason for me to do #yogaeverydamnday… well, almost every day, but I’m getting there.


Music Mantra:

Open your mind, open it wide.


Long As My Witches Love Me

For all of you who feel Halloween snuck up on you and you’re caught without a costume (again), I’ve got the perfect idea to get you out of this yearly dilemma…

Wear black, claim your inner witch and call it a day.

I know witches are portrayed as old, single and angry - the opposite of what the world has taught us we have to be in order to have worth. But this stereotype has been reinforced as a way to weaken what the witch really represents: a woman that’s in touch with her magical powers and uses her connection with nature, feminine energies and the spiritual to manifest with love. 

In honor of embracing our inner witch, I want to share a magical power I recently became aware of that we all possess and that you can start practicing today: 

I can transform you by seeing the best in you.

This is true of people and situations. Our connection to Source (what Wayne Dyer describes as Sourcery) is what gives us the magic wand, a straight and direct line from the heavens. The spell is cast when, as Marianne Williamson describes, we look past the clouds (the physical evidence), knowing that beyond them there is a light that is forever present. In people, it is their soul; in situations, it is the best possible outcome.

When you allow your third eye to focus on the potential of a person or situation and you filter your interactions with them with that in mind, you'll be using your magical powers to transform that person or situation for the better, however subtle or obvious it may be. 

When we look beyond what our physical eyes are showing us and know there is a deeper Truth, we often find love, compassion and non-judgement. When those feelings appear it makes the ground fertile for someone’s potential to grow. Yes, we have free will but you can’t deny that when a person sees the best in you, the best in you comes out. 

Modern day magic. 


Music Mantra:

We born whole. 



Hummingbird's the Word

Are you a Jane of all trades and master of none? 

In these exciting times, you can be the stylist, photographer and model. You can be the designer, manufacturer and sales person.  And in my current case, I can be the writer, art director and music curator. But when you’re wearing many hats, it can be easy to look at the person that kept one hat on the whole time and feel like crap in comparison because they seem to be further along their path. And now you find yourself looking for a whole new set of hats to wear, leaving past passion projects undone because you’re simply over it. I know this too well and I come with good news. 

You’re exactly where you need to be. Right here. Right now. Whatever hat you’re wearing. 

Elizabeth Gilbert, who wrote Eat, Pray, Love and Big Magic, introduced me to the idea of jackhammers and hummingbirds. She says that some of us have one clear passion in life and will work away at it with tunnel vision, never second-guessing their path. These are the jackhammers of the world. Their passion consumes them and they make shit happen. 

Others of us are hummingbirds who don’t have just one singular passion but instead have many curiosities that take them in different directions. They fly from flower to flower and rarely stay still in one place. While doing so, they pollinate the flowers, spreading the sweetness of life. The hummingbirds are interdisciplinary and responsible for spreading ideas. 

If you’re a hummingbird not knowing you’re a hummingbird, you may be looking at the jackhammers and wondering what’s wrong with you. 

I hope you stop this mental abuse to yourself and realize your job is to simply follow your curiosities. If one stops being appealing, move on to the next. God leaves us clues for what Elizabeth Gilbert calls the “scavenger hunt of your life” and you only have to concern yourself with one clue at a time. You readjust each time and gain clarity on the next step. I believe that we’re constantly being guided by an inner GPS that recalculates based on where you decided to turn, always guiding you home. If you trust that, the hummingbird life can be both exciting and fulfilling.

I relate more to the hummingbirds of the world but I also think that most of us just go through phases of jackhammer and hummingbird. And I’ve realized that my one singular passion has been to follow my curiosity. It has taken me from design to sociology to photography to marketing to non-profit to insurance to fashion to writing to spirituality and back to art. Each time I have taken a skill or understanding from one and transferred it to the next, pollinating seemingly separate worlds and bringing them together. Curiosity is also a resume builder. I’ve always been curious about origami and stop motion video. I’m following my curiosity in this very post and learning a new skill (see below). 

The magic here is in the idea that there are a variety of ways to go about life.

There isn’t just one right way. It’s more about who you are not what you do. Who are you throughout all these hat changes is what will determine how fulfilled you feel. As millennials, we have the world at our fingertips and are simultaneously paralyzed by all the options we have. If you ask me what’s for dinner, it can easily turn into a 15 minute conversation. The indecisive struggle is real. But when I remind myself that I’ll always be exactly where I need to be, I can enjoy all the flowers the Universe wants to send me. 

P.S. Curiosity didn’t kill the cat. Curiosity gave the cat life (and lots of stories to tell). 


Music mantra:

The world is yours.


#BELIEFin3WORDS

In anticipation of Oprah’s “Belief” miniseries premiering this weekend, I thought I’d share my belief in 3 words. It was kinda hard to narrow it down….  I got about 11 answers down (33 words to be exact) and realized my guiding principle was written in CAPS at the top of my page this whole time… (realizing this is a common theme lately. Anyway… )

I created the template pictured above during the "blog is not ready” procrastination phase and I chose to use it as a reminder to myself that when I write, I want to:

Co-Create With Love 

What these 3 words remind me is that even though I have free will, I also have the option to collaborate with Love (God) in order to maximize my life and it’s impact on the world. 

We all have the power to create but we decide if we team up with the ego or with Love when creating.

This alone will define the role your creation plays in the world. Do you want your life to benefit just your ego or do you want to benefit and feed your soul? We're all connected so I hope you choose the latter. We all win with love. 

Here are the runner ups in case you're curious:

WE ARE ART(ISTS)

LIFE IS MAGIC

WE ARE INFINITE

CREATIVITY IS SPIRITUAL

BE THE CHANGE

HEAVEN’S ON DEMAND

GOD’S A DESIGNER

EXPRESS YOUR LOVE

OPEN YOUR HEART

SEPARATION ISN’T REAL

LOVE IS REAL

Can you sum up your belief in 3 (or 33) words? Let me know in the comments OR create your own quote card and share online here.

Be sure to catch the first episode of this incredible miniseries this Sunday, Oct. 18th at 8PM on OWN


How To Increase Your OFFline Presence

One of the first times I had considered the idea of presence was when I picked up Eckhart Tolle’s A New Earth. Like the loyal Oprah groupie that I am, I bought it to keep up with her book club and well, I got like a chapter in and my head hurt. Huh? Wait. What? I think I get it… wait no… let me re-read that. Fast forward to a few years later into my spiritual practice and I devoured it and it spoke to me.

It had me realizing I had the key to life... if I could actually do it. 

Being present to our life is not a concept that can be really understood with the mind. In fact, that's the whole idea, that we are not our thoughts and that we are much, much, MUCH greater than our minds. I still live in my head but more and more I am able to disrupt that with presence, which is pretty much like hitting the refresh button on life.

I highly recommend Eckhart’s writings but as a starting point I decided it would be more effective to illustrate via an infographic so that you can visualize the concept. Below I also outline some mini-meditations Mr. Tolle shared in a podcast that will help you create spaces of presence… 

Mini meditations to step out of excessive thinking:

  1. One Breath:  Breathe in, breathe out and start to become aware of the moments in between each breath. When you are focusing on your breath, your awareness shifts from the past and future to the present because it can’t do both at the same time.
  2. The 5 Senses:  With any activity that you do often that is a means to an end, start to engage as many senses as possible. Say you are washing your dishes… instead of thinking of all you have to do after, notice the water falling on your hands, smell the soap, hear the splashing of the water or any other sounds, etc. 
  3. Inner Body:  Focus on the energy and aliveness pulsing through your body, one body part at a time. Place your awareness on your hand. What does it feel like inside? Notice the buzzing, tingling, warmth or vibration. Then move that awareness to the arm and keep going. 


Advice From Oprah on Becoming YOU

Last month my dream came true. 

My friend Tanya tagged me in a Facebook post that Oprah was hosting a Super Soul Sessions event where she was inviting some of the top spiritual thought leaders she’s had as guests on Super Soul Sunday for a day o’wisdom. We signed up and ended up getting tickets! I started spreading the word to anyone I thought would be interested and before I knew it, almost 30 of my loved ones were joining me on this amazing day of spirituality with OPRAH! 🙌

We got to listen to 10 of the most influential spiritual leaders including Deepak Chopra, Brene Brown, Marianne Williamson, Elizabeth Gilbert and so many more. Each offered aha moments and reminders of the things I know to be Truth. It. Was. Amazing. Oprah closed the event and her words were like lasers that went directly to my soul.

It was the perfect closing to the day because her life epitomizes the kinds of heights you can reach in your life when you embody the spiritual principles that had been shared with us all day. 

I’m not saying that if you do A, B and C then your life will be exactly like Oprah’s but we all have the potential of living a life we can’t imagine from our current perspectives. We really can experience quantum leaps in our lifetime. This is what Oprah shared as some of her guiding principles for becoming who she is now…

1. Be yourself.

This advice was given to her by her boss when she started her TV career. She took it to heart and it obviously worked! There’s never been someone quite like Oprah and guess what? There’s never been and never will be someone quite like you. While we may have lots in common as humans, you are a unique, one-of-a-kind remix and no one is put together exactly like you. You can take comfort in knowing that the feelings you feel are universal human emotions (that’s what connects us) but also keep in mind that the reason you’re here is because you have something unique to offer the world. No one else can do the job you were sent here to do.

Lately I’ve been telling the Universe that I want to get paid for being me. What better way to receive your abundance than by being yourself. This is where you’ll find your true power. Why wouldn’t The Artist we call God not support us in being who we were designed to become? Whether it’s a job that plays to your strengths or a business you start based on your passions, I believe that our power and abundance flows when we’re in that space. And when we try to force something that we’re not, it’s not wrong, it just isn’t a smooth path. We can learn from these experiences and take steps to get closer to being in our power. 

2.  Make the decision to stop wasting time.

It’s actually possible to think we have no time in our day to day lives yet simultaneously feel we have all the time in the world to get started on that dream of ours. Well, hate to break it to you (and me), but we actually don’t have all the time in the world. We’re here for a limited time and the older we get, time seems to go by faster because our busy days lead to busy lives. Months start to feel like weeks and years fly by. I know I’m not the only one who feels summer goes by way faster than it did when we were kids. People like Oprah achieve all that they achieve by living from a space where they know their work here is important and get busy actually doing it. There is a sense of urgency. 

At the same time, so much can happen in a year, in a month, in a day! So when Oprah tells you to stop wasting time, you listen up. Since February of this year, I’ve been working on this blog. I started writing then got scared and pulled back because I started to think I had to be more official and do an editorial calendar, logo, about page, branding, etc. Although those things can be important, a lot of it was procrastination due to the fact that I was scared to share it more widely and let it have a life of its own. In one day at Super Soul Sessions, I made the decision to stop letting fear stop me. In a month I finalized the website and branding. And week by week I will be creating and sharing… no longer wasting time. 

3. Follow the flow of your life. 

Dr. Wayne Dyer talks about this in his book “The Power of Intention”. It’s this invisible energy field that’s taking us to the next level of our lives. It’s the same energy that takes a caterpillar and turns it into a butterfly, a seed to blooming flower, and the same energy that’ll take you and create the YOU you are designed to become. Oprah reminds us that when we allow our personality to serve our soul, instead of the other way around, you’ll be in the flow of your life. And the way you’ll know you’re in the flow is by following what feels right. Whenever it starts to feel wrong, we simply course correct. Sometimes we do this willingly and sometimes something happens in our lives to steer us in a different direction. Either way, trust it. 

A spiritual practice is important for being in the flow because when we create space we’ll know when something feels right or wrong. If we don’t, it isn’t as clear to us because we’re in our heads overthinking. It’s super easy to get distracted and lost throughout the day - there’s always so much going on! It happens to me even if I’ve meditated, but what a spiritual practice does is makes it easier to get back in the flow. And when we do we’re allowing the highest possible expression of us to come through. That is how you will become you, the YOU the Designer intended for you to become.

There is no difference between us and Oprah. We’re all connected. We’re all reflections of the Designer that created us with Love. 

P.S. The big fat cherry on top to this day was that I got to have a mini conversation with Oprah after the event when she was walking back to her car (you can see my reaction on a video I posted on Instagram). I told her that I was no longer gonna waste time. I’m in the process of becoming ROSIE PI and can’t wait to see the YOU you become. 

 


Music mantra:

We won't let our hearts forget this time.

Notes to Self and my Goddess Gang

So, I’m a little late posting this week (“late” according to the deadline I set for myself) due to two things: 1 - Writer’s block 2 - Inspiration for the featured graphic came before I started writing.

I have a couple of drafts I could’ve finished up to post on time but they didn’t feel right this week. I would start typing, erase, type, erase - the electronic version of crumbling up your paper and tossing it - and was making no progress. I took a break and watched the Dr. Christiane Northrup interview with Oprah and at some point she said our relationships with women are important. All of a sudden “goddess gang” flashed into my head. I wasn’t sure how to expand on this in writing so I decided to start on the graphic first.

Even though I believe they are both equally important in regards to my vision, the graphic side always feels more playful. And it felt even more so when I decided to go old school and sketch it out first. I had to pull out my art kit (wee!), grab my Blackwing pencil and Micron pen (double wee!) and even though I was working, I immediately felt like I was procrastinating.

How strange that my brain registered fun and immediately ruled out the idea that I could actually be productive.

So here are some notes to self (and you) to keep in mind while creating: 

Note #1: When you’re working on a dream, it doesn't feel like work. But this is ONLY true if you allow yourself to enjoy it! If you're working on a dream that your prior self would be BLOWN AWAY by, then allow yourself to be blown away. While we shouldn’t live in the past, it's OK to revisit for some perspective of where we're at right now.

Be grateful instead of ruining it with unnecessary stress. 

Fast forward to today, I finished the graphic and then attempted to start writing but my ideas were jumping all over the place and I felt like I was trying to force a subject based on my cute lil design. So I took a break to eat dinner and came back to my computer to find my fingers typing away bullet points because I didn’t want to forget the ideas that were coming to me.

Note #2: Breaks lead to breakthroughs. Notice I've mentioned taking 2 breaks so far and what immediately came after those breaks were the ideas that I'd been forcing myself to come up with on demand. When you are hitting those walls, think of it as cue to stop what you're doing and allow your brain to do something else. Contrary to how it feels, you may actually be more productive with more breaks.

On the flip side, inspiration can be a delicate thing, so honor it when it comes and try to stay receptive for as long as it stays. 

The idea of writing a post about how I struggled to write and the lessons I learned from that came at the perfect moment. Ideally I would've liked it to come earlier this week but there is NO WAY I could have written this exact piece without facing those blocks. I had to work with inspiration’s timing instead of my own timeline.

Note #3: When something doesn’t go according to plan, you have to trust. Whether it be on a small scale like a blog post or something much greater, the intelligence that shapes our lives is always on time. Yes, the Universe conspires with you to get you to your vision but remember that the plans we lay out to get there aren’t always in line with the Universe’s plans. The Universe has a much bigger perspective so it knows the best way to get us there and the right time to arrive.

Keep the vision, trust the path.

All week I'd been looking, reading, watching in hopes to find inspiration but this week, the inspiration came from my own creative experience. I found the flow when I allowed myself to just share instead of overthink. That evolved into sharing the lessons that had presented themselves - because every obstacle is a potential lesson. And if I had to learn the lesson, I thought maybe you might too.

Note #4: Ideas grow stronger when they are shared. When I think about the idea of “supporting your local goddess gang”, the best way we can do that is to share our struggles and the lessons we learn so that we can connect and learn from each other. I may have no idea what you're going through but it's my sincere hope that something resonated with you and is an idea that will help you as you work toward your own vision.

I hope that by sharing my experiences, that I am somehow supporting you, my goddess gang. 


Music mantra:

Since knowledge is infinite, it has infinitely fell on me.

Pictures of the creative process... :)


TAROT CARDS: YOUR NEW BFF

Psychics and fortune-tellers aren’t the only ones reading tarot cards. I use my angel card deck on the reg and Lady Gaga recently let the world know via Insta that she never travels without her fairy cards. So whether you needed Lady Gaga’s co-sign or not, I want to share my approach to tarot and how I use them to access my lady magic.

Tarot cards are like that older and wiser girlfriend who gives you the best insight because she's already been through it and she just gets you.

When you were torn between which college to go to, she didn’t just tell you her opinion, instead she guided you to make the best decision for yourself. When you were having issues with your dude, she asked the right questions so that you could gain clarity in your own thinking. When you had enough of your job and wanted to change careers, she offered you the assurance you needed take that leap. And when things got tough as you started your own business, she reminded you of the reasons you started in the first place.

I pull out my deck when I need that kind of advice.

That older and wiser girlfriend is a higher intelligence, the part of you that knows your innermost desires (and shadows) and has access to a wider perspective that isn’t so apparent from where you’re at. We always have access to this intelligence but it’s easy to drown it out with worry, stress, procrastination and other distractions. The more you do it, the more you will realize that your answers will be things you already know on some level.

Pulling cards is a way to begin to trust your intuition.

Tarot cards work hand in hand with your intuition and use images in order to communicate something to you. The cards represent universal truths embraced by spiritual traditions. The deck that I have comes with a guide book so that I can look up what each card means. When I'm reading it, I use my intuition to see how it applies to what I'm asking and where I'm at in life. Each card doesn’t represent just ONE interpretation. It'll change depending on where you're at when you pull the card, so it evolves with you.

The Basics:

Most decks are comprised of 78 cards and divided into two groups:

  1. The Major Arcana (22 cards): Represents qualities essential for enlightenment and major life events with universal characters and situations
  2. The Minor Arcana (56 cards/divided by 4 themes/14 cards each): Represents opportunities for spiritual growth and day-to-day events and decisions to be made

Tip: Pick a deck that you are most drawn to. The images they use will work better if they resonate with you and you feel connected to them. Whether you stick to a traditional deck or go with a pretty new age deck, it is the right deck for you. I like that my deck has images and words on the card, in addition to a guide book for further explanation.

Doing a reading:

  1. Clear the energy of the deck by tapping the deck
  2. Touch all the cards to infuse them with your energy
  3. Meditate on the cards, asking for the guidance that you need and that it comes through clearly in a way that you will understand
  4. Ask your question (out loud or in your head)
  5. Shuffle the cards and stop when your intuition tells you (aka when you feel like it)
  6. Pull the top card(s) OR pull the card(s) that pops out at you while you shuffle
  7. Pay attention to the picture, the message and your intuition’s interpretation of the card in regard to your question
  8. Look up the meaning in the booklet and pay attention to your intuition’s interpretation

In my opinion, it is best to keep your questions open at first and then get into more specific questions (q's where the answer requires a timeframe or a yes/no) as you get more familiar with your deck -- but there is no wrong way to do it. Pictures can help answer time questions like an image of sun representing spring/summer and the number of the card can signify the month. Yes/No questions can be answered with the overall message (positive: yes / more somber: no). Reverse or upside down cards ask for your extra attention on whatever issue is related to that card.

Tip: Sometimes a card is all I need but when I want to go further, I use the card as a journaling prompt or will meditate on it after and will gain even more insight.

Spreads: 

As you start, one card can be enough or you may want to do a 3 card spread:

  1. Pick top 3 cards or any 3 that pop out at you
  2. Lay the first to your left, second in the middle and third to your right.

The Left card represents your immediate past.

The Middle card represents the current status and offers guidance.

The Right card represents the immediate future if you follow that guidance.

There is also a 10 card spread but the few times I've done it, I felt it was information overload. This is the more traditional way cards have been read but I did not want to write about something I don't practice a lot. There is plenty of google-worthy info out there if you want to explore further.

When you are beginning, it is best to do readings for yourself. As your confidence in your intuition grows, you will be able to do readings for your family, friends or maybe even some clients.

So go ahead and pull a card, your BFF is waiting to guide you with the best advice ever.


Music mantra:

In these little moments, get your cards out, I am waiting.


A Guide for the Spiritual Fashionista

Fashion and spirituality aren't subjects most of us think go hand in hand. Our “spiritual ego”, as I like to call it, likes to separate what it considers “spiritual”, put it on a pedestal and then look down upon anything that doesn’t fit into this world.

But what I’ve learned is that everything is spiritual - it’s just a matter of looking at it from a different perspective.

In the case of fashion, it could be considered a superficial and very ego-centric industry and I’m sure most of us could find plenty of proof that this is the “truth.” But as someone that's working in the industry, I've found plenty of evidence that fashion’s core essence is divine and responds to our yearning for self-expression. I've also met loving and generous artists that express themselves through designing and an array of talented people that are living their dharma through the industry.

If you are struggling between merging your namaste life with your fashionista tendencies, I put together a list of some spiritual approaches to fashion:

1. Regularly purge your closet

Clutter can lead to energy blocks so make sure you keep the flow going, even in your closet. As much as we like to believe we “need” something, we don’t. Point blank period. If you haven’t worn something in a while and you don’t get excited to put it on anymore, it's time to release it to another owner who will rediscover the magic in it. Whether you do it every season or every year, make sure that you stay consistent.

2. Buy something / Get rid of something

Along with the previous idea, when you add to your closet, it’s a good idea to subtract. Life is about the balance of giving and receiving, so a new piece in your collection is a great reminder to pass something along. Not only will it keep you fresh, but you will give someone the opportunity to enjoy that piece that you’ve already enjoyed. Implementing this strategy also reminds us to be good stewards of our belongings.

3. Invest in quality pieces

Zara is my guilty pleasure but I admit that their pieces aren’t the highest vibe pieces. Fast fashion is controversial because of the pollution and bad working conditions attached to it. While I know that it’s not that easy to exclusively buy items that don’t fall into this category, we can slowly start to shift the amount of pieces we own that will last us a long time and will not have to be tossed after a few washes.

4. Shop with intention

Before you go off on a shopping spree to make yourself feel better, make sure to take a pause and remind yourself that nothing material can ever fill a void. Set your intention before you go so that anything you buy will serve you in a positive way. Do you tend to avoid attention because you are afraid of being seen? Go buy that bold lipstick and wear it as practice to feel joy with being seen. The power of intention is magical and can transform a shopping trip into another way to aid your growth.

5. Think outside the mall

I grew up as a mall going Valley Girl so when I discovered all the exciting ways to shop that didn’t include Mrs. Field Cookies, it opened up a whole new world for me:

  • Consignment, second-hand and vintage stores are perfect places to find gems that aren’t widely available anymore. Shopping takes on a sense of adventure and discovery when you find something that fits great, has been something you’ve been eyeing or is in great condition and significantly less than retail. It also helps to reduce the damage that the fashion industry is responsible for. Shop green!
  • Ebay and apps like Tradesy give you the benefits of shopping pre-loved and new items from the comfort of your own home. I see eBay as the modern day barter system. Sure, money is the still the currency but you can sell some items that you're clearing out of closet to make room for the ones you're purchasing from another eBay seller. Win win!
  • Boutiques, whether brick & mortar or online, are run by amazing entrepreneurs that are passionate about what they sell and are taking a chance in building their own businesses. Especially as an entrepreneur, supporting small businesses when you can is just good karma. Places like Etsy do all the digging for you so that you can stay on one platform and shop one-of-a-kind, handmade, high vibe pieces from artists around the world. Remember, abundance starts with giving (and you can’t deny what you are getting from these amazing designers!)
  • Products with meaning and messages that align with you make for a great purchases because they are infused with the kind of energy you want to surround yourself with. Whether they are cruelty-free beauty products or Truth Bomb jewelry collaborations by Danielle LaPorte, your purchases are energized with the intention behind the product.

Keep in mind that fashion is neutral and it is up to us to decide how we are going to relate to it. When I dress in a way that feels genuine and good to me, I can show up so much more authentically than I would if I denied that cute shoes make me happy.

When we use fashion to be more of ourselves, fashion is magic. 


Music mantra:

"Girl I promise you, no substitutes. It's just me."

How I'm Staying Motivated to Workout

"I'm feeling myself" is my new mantra (in Beyonce's voice, obviously).  

Instead of focusing on a future body as motivation to break into a sweat I'm now focusing on something much more tangible... the pain. Let me explain. 

You know that feeling, a day or two after a workout, when your body feels sore but tight? Do you wonder if your body is more toned from just one workout or if maybe it's all in your head?

I was asking myself this question when I realized that whether or not my body was changing that quickly, I could feel immediate results. With just one challenging workout, your body will feel tight and sore in the next few days.  Working out consistently keeps that feeling in your body which results in feeling in shape. 

Eventually what might have only been in your head is going to manifest into the physical. Hello, tiny arm muscle. 

What I'm realizing is that it starts from the inside out. The feeling is all that matters. You can feel this way now. You don’t have to wait until you complete a 28 day challenge that leaves you more stressed than you started. This is a paradigm shift to turn this workout thing into instant gratification.

It starts with a simple mental exercise that snowballs into real results.

You know what also works for me? Tapping on the Nike Running App and going for a run when I  realize I got bumped down by amiga, Melissa ;). Works like a charm!

Need a running app buddy? Hit me up. Let's keep each other motivated. :)


Music mantra:

I'm feeling myself.


AHA Moments While Watching the Bruce Jenner Interview

Ok, I know I’m not the only one that cried while watching the Bruce Jenner interview with Diane Sawyer, right? By the time I had the chance to sit down and watch it, the interview had already broken the internet so I wasn’t necessarily shocked to hear Bruce Jenner say he was a woman. While my jaw did actually drop in some parts, what I was not expecting was the flood of compassion I felt for someone I had never really given much thought to before. And what stayed with me was something beyond that.

From the very beginning of the interview, when he took that long pause knowing that it was going to be difficult, I instantly got nervous for him. There he was, facing a moment that he had probably been dreading and looking forward to at the same time. After being in the public eye most of his adult life, Bruce Jenner was finally going to allow us to see who he truly was. For more than an hour I was glued to the TV and not because of curiosity (which admittedly was the reason I watched it in the first place) but because the interview was provoking many aha moments.

The biggest AHA moment was the realization of just how damaging society’s divisions are.

With race, if you aren’t part of the “minority” then you don’t have to think about race. It’s called white privilege and something I know very intimately because I don't have it. But I do have another kind of privilege that I had not truly acknowledged until I saw this interview, the privilege transgender communities know too well. If your relationship to your gender is one of the two that society (aka you, me, our friends, family, neighbors, co-workers, acquaintances, etc.) has deemed “natural”, then you have the privilege of not having to think about this every day of your life. Also, like many, I have often put gay, lesbian, bi-sexual and transgender in the same category out of naivety without really stopping to think that sexual desire and gender are two different things.

Mother nature is obviously showing us that there is so much more variety and the only reason this is confusing and upsetting to some people is that we believed for so long that there were only two ways to be in the world: a feminine heterosexual woman or a masculine heterosexual man.

Bruce admitted that throughout his life he would look at other men and women and think how lucky they were to feel comfortable in their own skin, and there he was in the middle, not knowing which way to go. It made me wonder how much of that confusion comes from our society’s (again, not some group of people “out there” but made up by ALL OF US) confining definition of man and woman. I wonder if we stressed humanity above gender and acknowledged that we come in all varieties, if a man with a feminine soul could live and feel accepted in the body he was born into? In no way am I informed enough to comment on whether it's a good idea to have surgery to change your gender (because I have NO idea), but it did make me think about how simplified we think about gender and how people like Bruce break all those categories.

Instead of making people fit into society, why don't we allow society to conform to people?

Thousands of transgender people face discriminationviolencemurder and suicide for not fitting into the way we think people should be in the world - another thing I knew but did not really sink in until I heard it on the interview. Jenner had contemplated suicide himself when he thought the paparazzi had found out his secret, so it was extremely powerful to hear the message from Bruce’s mom saying “I never thought I could be more proud of Bruce when he reached his goal in 1976, but I'm more proud of him now. It takes a lot of courage to do what he's doing” (btw, major tear-jerker moment for me). I couldn’t agree more. Now, more than ever, he is that champ on that Wheaties box.

 Vulnerability takes courage and that's the only way to let people connect to who you truly are.

While our “secrets” and what we hide from others may not be Diane Sawyer (or Oprah) interview worthy, it's a reminder that whatever you're scared of as far as other people’s reactions does not compare to the isolation that comes from living life not letting people see who you truly are. And the more authentic we can be with each other, the more connected we'll feel.  Thank you Bruce, for being a brave soul not only for the transgender community, but for all of us that have been inspired by your vulnerability. I truly hope that you will be okay, Bruce.

Side note: I know some were skeptical about his intentions with this interview but I think it’s because it’s more comfortable for us to believe that someone wants attention than it is to believe that we don’t truly know people unless they allow us to know them. Plus the media, paparazzi and all of us consuming it, had no problem invading his privacy before he was ready to tell us but then when he tells us, it’s for the money and the fame? Think about it.

 

You Are the Art, Not the Artist

Do you feel that you're in control of your life? While you may be quick to answer yes, think about how much pressure that puts on you to make the "right" decision in any given moment.

For a minute, let's flirt with the idea that we're not 100% in control.

I'm not saying that we don't have free will or that we are fated to a certain life, but why don't we allow room for the idea that there is a Designer with a bit more experience than us that's helping shape our lives?

I'm obsessed with the new Cosmos series with Neil deGrasse Tyson because there's nothing I've seen in that series that conflicts with any spiritual truths I believe in.

And when Neil says we are made of stardust,

YOU KNOW WE ARE MADE OF STARDUST. 

He has science backing him up. This the sweet spot where science and the metaphysical meet. If the same designer that created the cosmos, created us, then why not believe that this Designer can help us create the beautiful lives we desire - lives we can't possibly imagine from our limited perspective?

A Course in Miracles recently offered me this idea...

“You cannot escape from fear until you realize that you did not and could not create yourself. You can never make your misperceptions true, and your creation is beyond your own error.” 

The idea that you did not create yourself takes the pressure off of you. Don't you feel light imagining yourself as the piece of art who’s job is to be and allow God/Universe/The Artist/The Designer to see their vision through you? Personally I always want to remember that I'm not in complete control and it’s a beautiful thing to know that I can’t fuck it up. It's in this idea that I find flow. 


Music mantra:

"I bet you never even knew, that there's a Universe inside of you."